Timothy Lim

Twitter Logs Week 52 2024

  • Girls will go full celibacy mode for years—no dating, no flirting, nothing Locked up in a tall tower, braid hanging out of the highest window, silently waiting for a prince. Then they’ll rejoin the dating scene, go out on a date with the biggest player who’s been in the game for 15+ years and never stopped, thinking he’s as innocent and romantic as them and they won’t get played

  • A weird result of 60 years of sexual egalitarian whitewashing is that every adult learns about gender differences via a series of private relationship crises – more or less excruciating – rather than that knowledge being embodied in institutions ritual and practice

  • Height is a social phenomenon

  • I’ve been on the internet since like 2002 and somebody just said something about Luigi that might be the horniest thing I’ve ever read outside of AO3?? 10 little words. 10 insane little words. They typed this out and hit post. I need to sit DOwN.

  • If you’re smart, wealth can buy you the lightness of absence of schedule & the ability to modulate your day to surprises as they come. If you’re stupid (like most rich pple), wealth buys you the prison of a rigid schedule, metastatic obligations, & self-feeding complications.

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  • Tolkien wrote to his children as Father Christmas (or his elvish secretary) for 23 years, creating a whole North Pole universe of illustrations and characters and adventures, even drawing his own postage stamps, a true love-of-the-game storyteller

  • Marriage predicts happiness better than education, work and money

  • This is exactly Laszlo Polgar’s core thesis: that it is a moral imperative to enable kids to grow up to be geniuses because that is what makes them most happy— and that kids by default want to be on a prodigious path, they just aren’t resourced / expected / enabled to do so

  • One of my sexual fantasies is having someone really care about me and nurse me back to health when I am sick

  • a less extreme version of this i’ve noticed in multiple otherwise-ordinary families is they can’t bear sitting around in comparative silence, they have to have the TV on loud enough that it’s difficult to have a conversation over it

  • The choice to not date bisexuals is a heuristic a lot of people apply to avoid infidelity, partners who break gender norms, and/or feeling insufficient in a relationship. I get the point of the heuristic, it is now up to its adopters to say if it’s mapping on to reality.

  • “gamers will optimize all the fun out of a game” also applies to life as well sometimes it’s better not to go for the most optimal path. if you’re on vacation, you don’t need a schedule, you don’t need google maps, you can just do it the fun way and rawdog everything if it’s about leisure, all experiences are equal anyways so long as they’re new. if you don’t have the ability to see that, you let the game get to you, sorry

  • if you’re interested in these book excerpts i am reading “invitation to a banquet: the story of chinese food” by one of my favourite food writers – invitation to a banquet book

  • our destiny is not terrifying because it is unreal; it is terrifying because it is irreversible and iron bound. time is the substance of which I am made. time is the river that sweeps me along, but I am the river; it is a tiger that mangles me but I am the tiger.

  • there’s something at the core of the american ideology that’s only captured in happy go lucky 80s movies, which is that the noble pursuit of fun is probably one of the most productive forces in the universe and works way better than grinding away dutifully on things you hate

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  • Sluttiness requires a level of joie de vivre and an openness of spirit. There should be profound sweetness to a fling even if it only lasts an hour. Beware of anyone who approaches promiscuity with aloofness or dispassion. People like that are a vessel that will never be filled

  • Thank you. Always. He is my brother in this test-universe.

  • Came across an hour-long talk on YouTube that I wanted to watch. Rather than spend an hour watching it, I pasted the URL into a site that generates transcripts of YouTube videos and then pasted the transcript into Grok and asked for a summary. Got the gist in three minutes.

  • people don’t say this out loud as much but self-loathing is a form of narcissism

  • The top 10, by popularity, Lindy Newsletter articles this year…..

  • so why do people still think this? there’s a simple explanation imo, which is that even if two people have 99% of things in common, in an intimate enough relationship sooner or later that 1% difference is going to come into play, and become a defining characteristic of the rship

  • Nietzsche’s touchstone for a successful marriage – Marriage is a long conversation – When entering into a marraige one ought to ask oneself: do you believe you are going to enjoy talking with this woman up into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory, but most of the time you are together will be devoted to conversation

  • This is why all of your non-married sex lives suck. There is no such thing as sexual compatibility. The only reason people think there is, is because of porn and casual sex. Sex was never meant to be casual. It was never supposed to be a placeholder for emotional connection and vulnerability. It was never meant to replace the bond that comes from deep friendship and affection. Sex was always meant to be a product, a side effect, of love. Not its producer. Y’all are placing waaaaaay too much pressure on sex and asking it to do something it was never designed to do. That’s why pre-marital sex will ALWAYS be unsatisfying and unfulfilling.